Song of Solomon 3

"Scarcely had I left them when I found him whom my soul loves; I held on to him and would not let him go until I had brought him to my mother's house, and into the room of her who conceived me." Song 3:4

A church I once served gave financial assistance to a single mother in the church. She was saved and realized that she should not be living with her boyfriend, who was the father of her children. So the church decided to put it's money where it's mouth was and not just tell her to move out, but they paid for her to do it. It was a few months later when she started living with him again. After a while she became completely frustrated and moved out. My wife and I thought this was a good move, and we were totally surprised when she came to us saying that this man had proposed to her. We knew she wasn't really in love with him, and sure enough a few months after the marriage she wanted out again.

People say love is a fickle thing, but I don't think that's true. So many people today settle for looks, a good time, or some other reason to be in their relationships. Look at Solomon's bride here. She is out looking for someone that she has already identified as a true love in her life. She says that when she finds him she will not let him go. But how can you hold onto someone you love? I see people that are in "love" have relationships break apart all the time. In nearly every experience where I've seen relationships and marriages in trouble, do you know that the big problem was? They didn't continue to develop their love or they were never in love to begin with. If you have children, you need to teach them now to consider the standards they want in a future spouse. Don't allow them to wait until they are dating, because they will force their standards to fit a particular person instead of waiting for the right person to come along. They need to be the right date instead of trying to find the right date. If you're already in a marriage relationship, do you feel like the love is nearly lost? Then focus more attention on your spouse, and less upon yourself. Write down the things you love about him or her and then dwell on those things. Your lover is not perfect, just like you. That makes you perfect for each other.